One of my favorite things to do when traveling is going into the Hudson Booksellers at the airport and perusing the New York Times bestseller shelves. The NYT recommendations have never steered me wrong, so when I saw You Are a Badass among the bestsellers, I figured I was in good hands. After I boarded my plane, and was only a few pages into the paperback, I knew I was in for a great read.
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero is not the best book I’ve ever read. I think I gave it 3 or 4 stars on my Goodreads page. It’s partly because I do not consider myself a “bada**” nor do I aspire to be one. (I already own a leather jacket and have an extra piercing!). I’m also not used to reading so much swearing. But it’s the subtitle that is what I took away from this book and made a lasting impact: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.
In this self-help / how-to book for people who want to improve their lives, the author Sincero shares her anecdotes, personal advice, and advice she’s been given by helping the reader:
- Identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want.
- Create a life you totally love. And create it NOW.
- Make some dang money already. The kind you’ve never made before.
I love my life and I am very happy with who I am. But we always have room for improvement, right? Just reading this book, for the above reasons among many others, gave me the peace of mind that I’m in control of my today and tomorrow, and can set attainable goals very easily. Since I read this book on New Year’s Day, my 2018 has felt more relaxed, organized, and motivated. Whether you’re considering reading You Are a Bad Ass on your next beach vacation, or want to skip the reading and get the Sparknotes version, below are some of the lessons that struck a chord with me and I’ve tried to take to heart and practice daily:
- Instead of wanting to change your life, decide to. Don’t wait to act, just do it.
- Live the kind of life you’re jealous of. (I think being jealous of others is something more pervasive with social media. Rather than envy what others are doing, either enjoy what you’re doing or go out and do what they’re doing! Imitation is the best form of flattery.)
- We are so focused on trivial problems and the mundane that we don’t realize the miracle we are living.
- Keep your mouth shut around those who are going to bring you down and seek out those who are “kicking butt.”
- You are the only you there is and ever will be.
- Put Post-It notes of affirmation around the house or office and write ten affirmations every morning and every night.
- Avoid comparison like the plague. (This reminds me of the renowned Mark Twain quote: “Comparison is the death of joy.” Just worry about yourself.)
- Don’t waste your time thinking about what anybody else thinks of you. (Middle school taught me to be good at this.)
- If you base your self-worth in what everyone else thinks of you then you hand all your power over to other people.
- Use your inner guidance tool. You have all the answers inside of you.
- Spend five minutes of quiet by yourself every day.
- Make a vision board. (My mentor did this when she started her career and put her dream car on it, and now she has that car!)
- Surround yourself with people who think the way you think. (I take this to mean in terms of values and outlook; of course it’s good to have diverse friends who challenge the way you think as well.)
- Pick one or two causes and give your time and money to them every month. (In the past year I’ve become increasingly involved with my church.)
- Mix faith with gratitude.
- Whenever anything happens, meet it with the statement “This is good because…” and fill in the blank. (In Friday Night Lights, Coach Taylor tells his wife, “That’s not our burden. That’s our gift.”)
- Avoid procrastinating! If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse. Done is better than perfect.
- Make a bet with someone to motivate you.
- When we are focused to do something, suddenly the time is there.
- Write down your monetary goals and read them every day.
- Surrendering is the part where you hand the job over to the Universe.
- Figure out what makes you feel like you could carry a horse over your head and do it as often as possible.
© Rissponsible Living, 2018